It happens that you hope for a long time that a relationship with a person will still be possible. That they will change, appreciate, realize something and understand how much they need you, and that only with you they will be good. Days, weeks, months, or even years pass. You continue to believe, make attempts to prove something to them, explain something, somehow reach them. But when everything is fruitless, sooner or later the question arises: “Is it necessary?”, informs Ukr.Media.
To stop in time, to stop wasting your resources on someone who simply doesn't need it, who won't appreciate it anyway, a well-known piece of wisdom helps a lot.
“There are 10 steps between you and the other person. If you've taken your 5 steps and no one has come out to meet you, it's time to turn around and leave.”
What does this 10-step rule teach us?
When you have feelings, you need to make attempts and take steps towards them.
So that later you don't blame yourself for wanting to, for being able to, but not doing it or even trying.
For your own peace and harmony, it is very important to realize that you were not inactive at the right moments. And that these actions were conscious and specific.
In any case, you have nothing to blame yourself for.
You can't live on hope alone.
Hope can give wings, hope can hold you over the abyss. But it can also destroy you.
It is because of irrational hope that a person can believe in their own castles in the air for a very long time.
When a person sees some positive changes, hope is not unreasonable.
But when you've been convinced many times that there are definitely “no options,” what's the point of clinging to hope?
You need to be able to stop in time.
You need to do something in time, seize the opportunity in time.
But telling yourself “stop” in time is wisdom, a kind of skill.
Stop breaking into closed doors, stop planting flowers in a bottomless pit.
You only have one life. Are you really willing to spend it constantly in a waiting room?
An experience with a negative outcome is still an experience
Even if it was a “one-sided relationship,” even if this whole story is painted in dark tones for you, it is still a part of your life and your experience.
Let the story end. Let the person never take those cherished five steps towards you. And maybe even not take a single step. But during this time you worked on yourself, learned to understand people better, discovered your own capabilities, became stronger.
When you're out of energy and hope is fading, remember the “10-step rule.” And it will be easier to put everything in its place.
