People are basically divided into 2 categories: those who like to host guests and those who go to visit. Until a certain time, I was a fairly hospitable hostess: I set the tables, received guests and even left them with a place to stay. But recently I just can't stand it when strangers appear in my house.
There are several reasons for this.
Now I will tell you why my doors have become closed to many friends and relatives.
We live in a house. And for a while, friends and relatives got into the habit of coming to our place almost every weekend. Shish kebabs, barbecue, fresh air. Around there are flowers, grapes, vegetable and herb beds. Rest as much as you want.
But very often they came to eat and enjoy nature. And I was in the role of bring-serve. No-no. The women helped. Some would wash the dishes, some would pick the vegetables. But everything needed economic supervision. I was constantly being pulled:
Where is that? Where is that? Give me a towel, shampoo for the bath. How do I pump water? What to wash the dishes with? What tomatoes can I pick? Questions and requests poured in like a cornucopia, and I had to constantly rush around the site.
If you come with children, then this is generally a problem
Children will definitely trample the beds, break the flowers, drag dirt onto the paths. Once, my friend's son picked all the unripe apples from a young apple tree and just threw them on the ground. That year I was left without a harvest.
And guests always mean hours of cleaning.
First, I clean the house to welcome people to a clean house. After the guests leave, I clean up the aftermath. No matter how you look at it, there are mountains of dishes and a dirty floor. Someone will definitely spill a drink on a chair/sofa/carpet. Another will break a glass or a glass. Another will dirty the plumbing.
After guests, I change all the towels and rugs in the bathrooms. I vacuum and wash the floors. I clean the furniture from traces of food and drinks. This is very serious work. And there is a catastrophic lack of time for it.
I also notice that some guests like to poke their noses into the hosts' personal lives.
I don't like it when one of my friends starts going through my makeup in the bathroom or opens the kitchen cabinets. Especially shameless ones can even climb into the wardrobe or bedside table. This happens if there are a lot of guests in the house and everyone is scattered everywhere.
I just can't stand it when people ask me to give my children my laptop. It's a very personal thing: all my work moments, social networks, instant messengers, photos can be viewed by strangers at any moment. I don't need that!
And I don't like it when guests start begging for something.
One of them definitely needs to take a shoot from each of my flowers. Another asks to bring her greens and vegetables from the garden. Men are no better: they immediately start asking their husbands for tools. Collecting your belongings from friends and relatives can be quite problematic.
That's why I've stopped inviting guests to my place lately. I simply don't have the energy or time for these hassles. We meet them more and more often in cafes or go out into nature. We sit, talk, and go home. That's it for me!
