Good sex is vibrant, sensual, and brings physical and emotional pleasure to everyone involved; it's also the kind that never gets boring. How can you create undying passion and make all your fantasies come true so your partner enjoys it too? We'll tell you.
We're often embarrassed by our desires and can't express them to our partners. Or we simply don't know what can make our sex life rich and exciting. Sex experts offer several important tips that can help you achieve this easily and simply.
Spontaneity
For long-term couples, sex can become routine if it's done strictly according to a schedule, using the same words and actions. Knowing exactly when sex will happen today at a certain time, and that it will begin and end in a certain way, dulls desire. So be spontaneous: tease each other, make love at unusual times and places; avoid the usual hints, caresses, and positions.
Compliments
Everyone needs them, both men and women. You might not even realize how much a pleasant word from your lover can do for you. It instantly boosts your mood, libido, and self-esteem. So, get into the habit of giving compliments and encourage them to return the favor.
Preparation
Yes, foreplay is important, and you should never forget about it. You can always find a few minutes for sensual kisses, tender or, conversely, “dirty” words and touches. If you don't rush into intercourse and instead focus on foreplay, sex will be much better, it's proven.
Frankness
Until a mind-reading device is invented, you'll have to tell your partner about your fantasies and secret desires out loud. Don't be afraid; trust me, she genuinely wants to know what you want. If you're having trouble finding the words, send a picture or video. Let an atmosphere of trust and openness reign in your relationship.
Visibility
As we said, your significant other wants to know what you like. So, clearly demonstrate on her body which kisses and caresses excite you most, and which erogenous zones she shouldn't miss. Then have your partner do the same. This kind of play brings you closer and brings immense pleasure.
Diversity
To ensure your sex life doesn't become a boring routine, you need to try something new every now and then. The easiest way is to change your usual location. Making love in the bedroom is comfortable, but it can get boring. Even in a small apartment, you can find plenty of other places to do it: the floor, the bathtub, the table, etc. Indulging in passion outside the home is also great, but you need to be careful to avoid being seen and getting fined. A safe option is a hotel. Sex there, especially during a trip together, will bring a lot of pleasant emotions. And for those ready for more daring experiments, there are special hotels for role-playing. For now, these are only available in large cities, but what better reason for a romantic getaway?
Games and toys
But even within your own four walls, you're guaranteed an incredibly passionate night if you decide to engage in role-playing or bring a toy to bed. Reversing familiar roles with completely opposite ones can really ignite feelings. It's best to approach this thoroughly: choose costumes, think through dialogue, and start the game outside of the bedroom, playing out your role a little outside of it. Firstly, it's incredibly exciting. Where else can you feel like you're in your favorite movie or book? Secondly, experts confirm that this approach is the best preventative against boredom, infidelity, and breakups.
Time for two
Sometimes, in our rush to finish our chores and resolve our problems, we forget to pay attention to our significant other: we don't compliment each other, don't hug, and don't go on dates. But constantly putting things off can cause feelings to fade unnoticed. To prevent this, it's important to spend time together, away from children, friends, and everyday concerns. Devote at least one evening a week to each other, pursuing shared hobbies, arranging romantic get-togethers, and showing attention and care.
These are just the most basic ways to keep the flame of love burning. But even they'll be enough to prevent you from getting bored with each other and losing touch.