Approximately half of women and a third of men experience difficulties in bed. Repressed stress, fatigue, and lack of time can destroy sexual desire, arousal, and orgasm.
Sometimes a decrease in sexual desire occurs under the influence of hormonal imbalances or as a result of taking certain medications.
Sex therapists don't like to use frequency of intercourse as a measure of intimacy or to assign any specific numbers to what's normal. Naturally, having intercourse twice a month or less is considered low activity.
Sexual desire can be compared to appetite. It's no secret that it's virtually impossible to impose your opinion of taste on someone else or convince yourself that you're genuinely lacking a certain pleasure.
Try spice up your sex life with new positions and techniques. The biggest enemy of most couples is habit. Seeing the same dish on the table day after day—even a favorite one—can eventually lead to disgust. And the urge to “change the table” is something not everyone can resist. But all it took was a risk and a different sauce…
Don't be afraid to express your feelings through kisses, light touches on the arms and shoulders, and stroking the hair. Both partners need this kind of expression, although they should understand that expressing their affection for each other doesn't necessarily signal sex.
Read something about intimate relationships. Erotic literature will nourish and stimulate your sensual side, which will ultimately allow you to overcome excessive shyness and awaken your imagination.
Get rid of depression and stress. Depression can cause physical disturbances and a loss of interest in almost everything, including a waning sex drive. Furthermore, it often turns out that both partners are working. Professional development and child-rearing demands are all stressors that reduce sexual desire and can lead to a state of apathy when it comes to sex.
Carefully review the medications you're taking. A number of medications, especially some psychotropic and antidepressant medications, as well as blood pressure medications, can lead to decreased libido.
Seek outside help. Start by reaching out to your partner. After all, they'll be the first to notice a decrease in libido. Talk about your concerns, discomfort, and any embarrassment you're experiencing about the proposed actions, emphasizing that you're willing to do this to maintain a good relationship.