Lack of sexual life morally suppresses a woman and leads to a hysterical breakdown.
Just by looking at the faces of most women on the morning subway, you can easily determine how their love life is going. A sullen look, a gray complexion for most, and very rare glimpses of a morning blush. This simple observation conceals clear statistics. One in three SHE readers admitted that the main problem in their intimate life is its absence or unsatisfactory quality. The status of businesswoman, which many aspire to, leaves no room or time for lovemaking. Can a woman in a big city today live without sex?
Dissatisfaction with life
The connection between the quantity (which translates into quality) of sexual relations and a woman's mood is not limited to the crude colloquialism that begins with the prefix “under-.” Freud himself described the connection between female neuroticism and a lack of sex in his “Essays on the Theory of Sexuality.” His words can be believed, disputed, or awaited for a chance to test them. However, a practicing psychotherapist, if asked honestly, will tell you that problems with sex snowball into a multitude of other problems. “If I'm counseling a woman and observe increased neuroticism, the first sign of a lack of sex is immediately apparent,” shares Alena Berdnik, director of the “Psychology of Relationships” training center.
If a woman has sex, it automatically indicates that she is in demand specifically in her feminine form. This simple mechanism, disrupted by multiple pseudo-cultural layers, destroys the fragile female psyche if it begins to function incorrectly. “The absence of normal heterosexual relationships greatly affects one's mood and psychological state.”
Today, more and more women exhibit hysterical character traits, characterized by a distorted perception of the world around them, their gender, and inadequacy and immaturity of thinking.
There are many such people, and they live seemingly normal lives. But they raise children whose pathological symptoms will later become even more severe. And this is the greatest danger,” says sexologist Igor Poperechny.
Who has it easy now?
“A lack of sex life is primarily emotionally depressing for a woman,” explains Lyubov Treyvish, a gynecologist and endocrinologist at the Avicenna Medical Center. “But much depends on her perception of the situation. A high desire for sex but a lack of fulfillment can lead to stagnation. But if a woman is calm and understands that sex for the sake of sex is nonsense, she won't experience any problems.”
As you can see, the key word is “if.” As Igor Poperechny explains, his practice shows that a lack of sex life negatively impacts all women, but it has the least consequences for women with a strong sexual constitution (the combination of body characteristics that determine the level of sexual desire and sexual activity): “For such women, a lack of sex results in activity, anger, and aggression. For those with a weak sexual constitution, sexual function quickly fades, and it is precisely for them that a deterioration in psychological well-being quickly begins. They become lethargic, amorphous, and stop doing anything altogether. These are the same women who say they simply 'don't feel like doing anything.'”
By the way, the long-legged reed, which has become the standard (though, according to some sources, already outdated) of attractiveness, is a striking example of a weak type of sexual constitution.
A culture that breeds an unviable ideal is bearing ever more fruit: women cannot find themselves not only a prince, but even a basic lover.
Paired interest
However, the option of finding a lover doesn't appeal to many—a lonely woman suffering from a romantic relationship usually wants to find one and only—and to be with her forever. Psychologists believe this is a very convenient excuse: if a woman can't find a partner, even for sex, it suggests she hasn't learned to interact normally with society, and the expression “men are extinct,” although supported by demographic statistics, is mostly a convenient cover.
But a woman who has a husband or lover is in a better position, even if sex doesn't satisfy her: through trial and error and constant trying, she can find an option that will satisfy her.
Women find themselves in the most difficult situation, rejecting both the option of a lover and a trip to a sex shop. They are unable to relieve the tension, limiting themselves to imaginary “ethical norms.”
Experts believe that such women experience the highest levels of stress, which prevents them from interacting adequately with others and leads to a vicious cycle.
Sublimation of love
In a personal crisis, a woman typically retreats into work, exhausts herself by battling cellulite at the gym, or starts drinking martinis with her girlfriends on Fridays. “Distraction or oblivion are universal ways to escape contact with one's body,” explains Petr Ostrikov, director of the “Tantra in Modern Times” training program. “But none of these methods will bring satisfaction.”
“A woman can control herself up to a certain point, then she has a hysterical breakdown, the consequences of which are very difficult to deal with,” continues Igor Poperechny. Bottom line: separate idealistic fantasies from reality, lofty feelings from physical necessity. Finally, take a lesson from men—they rightly believe that sex and love are two different things.