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A parent expressed that her “spirit vacated” when her husband suggested she pass a funeral procession on the road – though viewpoints remain mixed as to whether his suggestion was valid.
Amber Izzo, who posts content relating to parenting, gestation and home renovation on the TikTok platform, shared a video earlier in the week wondering if it was disrespectful to go past a funeral car. She stated that she and her husband “disagreed” about the subject, thus she was asking for advice on social media.
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Amber stated: “Is it wrong to pass a funeral car? My other half and I can’t come to an understanding. We were travelling home, there was a funeral vehicle carrying a coffin and flowers reading ‘mum’ followed by the procession behind.
“I was on the parkway, everyone was going 70 miles an hour, I came behind and was thinking, oh no, do I go past? Or do I indicate?”. Do I become part of the procession and go at 40 miles an hour until they exit? I am unsure.
“My husband said, no, just go past, just carry on. I did it, I panicked and I did it, but it felt like my spirit left my body. I am feeling guilty about it. So is it wrong? If I was on a roundabout and they were approaching, even with a small opening, I would pause.
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“I’ve never passed one before and now I feel like, I’m unsure… I felt it was the incorrect thing to do.”
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Commenters slammed Amber for being impolite in passing the vehicle, whereas others understood her dilemma. One individual said: “It’s the height of disrespect to go past a funeral car. The deceased deserves a final acknowledgement on their last journey.”
Another chimed in: “Please do not pass a funeral car, it’s very impolite, I also stop when one is going past.”
Another witnessed a person pass their deceased 23-year-old son’s hearse but said the act itself didn’t disturb them, it was the driver’s behaviour.
She recounted: “This occurred to us, January 2, my 23-year-old son was on his last journey. It was blatantly obvious, my son in his hearse followed by me and then his brother, a lot of vehicles and motorcycles. A woman overtook and forced herself between me and my son, when challenged she gave us the middle finger.
“I appreciate following a funeral procession is slow but really, if you can go past without causing problems then do so, but please, don’t push yourself through.”
@amber.izzo Passing/overtaking a funeral convoy on a dual carriageway… Is it disrespectful? Illegal? Feels like it should be but I don’t remember hearse etiquette being part of my driving test x #fyp ♬ original sound – Amber Izzo
In a later video, Amber provided additional information regarding the event and made clear that the “parkway” was actually a dual carriageway. This created a surge of comments reassuring Amber that her choices were fine.
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One person mentioned: “I was in a procession for a relation and people were passing us on a dual carriageway, I didn’t think twice, you’re okay. People are just trying to seem morally superior when they’ve all probably done it themselves” A second said: “If on a motorway (I know that’s not often) or dual carriageway then if they are in the left lane I would pass while showing respect. I wouldn’t go past on any single carriageway though. Bless you for caring.”
A hearse driver clarified the situation and explained: “Hearse driver here. On a duel carriageway we wouldn’t think any less of you if you were to pass. We go slower to keep our procession together on roads like that as we expect people not cut in. Hope this calms you down.”