So, this is even a lofty question. It is asked by cultured people who are afraid to offend others. They do not want to violate etiquette. But they simply suffocate next to someone who emits an odor, informs Ukr.Media.
There are two options here. If a person smells of illness, if they are obviously sick, there is no need to say anything. They know it themselves. But what will they do? They themselves would like to be healthy. But this is impossible. And there is no need to increase the suffering. They must endure. Although it is not easy. But your reward is that you show mercy. And it will be rewarded from above. And the smell will not bring harm if you endure it from high motives. On the contrary, it is a signal for help. And we must help at least with merciful patience. It is rewarded.
And if a healthy, normal person smells like an unwashed body? She's just dirty. And for some reason she doesn't wash herself, even though she has water at home, fragrant soap, and a fluffy towel. And they give her the best deodorants. They've been giving her a lot for a long time. She just doesn't use them.
It's useless to hint. A normal adult person knows perfectly well that they need to wash themselves, even without you. They teach this in childhood. Just like they teach you to relieve yourself in a special place, not in public. As a rule, normal, not stupid people who work next to you smell.
It's clear that there's no point in talking to a random fellow traveler on the bus. But a colleague can literally poison your life and make it difficult to breathe.
The person is healthy. And smells good. And smells constantly. And knows the rules of hygiene perfectly. So, she does it intentionally. That's all.
She permeates the territory with her scent. She declares that this is her territory. If you don't like it, get out. Or she pretends that everything is fine. That's the whole message.
In ordinary life, this can be a completely quiet person. But the aroma that she emits directly proves the intention – to occupy the territory and force everyone to sniff her and be silent! To endure. To suppress nausea and endure because she wants to. She secretly controls others with the help of her smell. Marks her territory.
You need to take action if the smell is constant. If it's a person's habit, perfume the room.
The advice is this: first, in private, you need to ask about your health. Apologize and ask this question. If the person says that their health is fine, you can say directly about the unbearable smell, calmly, benevolently. Like, we already talked to you about hygiene. But you didn't listen to my words. Couldn't you wash yourself before going to work? And put on clean clothes? You are harming yourself and others.
Most likely, there will be a conflict. And you will be so uncomfortable, ashamed, as if you were constantly smelling of dirt. But you have every right to say these words if there is no other way to provide yourself with normal air. If other people are suffering too. Because everyone has the right to breathe.
This is ethical and fair.
If we are not talking about an illness, as mentioned above, but about the constant smell of sweat and a dirty body.
No one can force others to inhale their scent. The right to breathe is the right to life.
Bad smell causes depression in those who are forced to feel it. And depression can lead to the development of diseases. The bad smell, which we are forced to inhale, restraining and forcing ourselves, also causes aggression, which flares up for no reason. Quarrels and conflicts occur in the team, mutual understanding disappears. The reason is in the unbearable “aroma”, which poisons everyone's life, but everyone is afraid to tell the source of the smell about it.
The same applies to a very strong smell of perfume, cologne. So strong that tears flow, everyone coughs, even scratches, but they don't dare to touch a person. This is also a manifestation of aggression, if it happens constantly. And if others are forced to inhale an excessive and strong aroma, which gives a headache and stops breathing. And at the same time you need to be in the same room…
This is also a stench. An ancient word that originally meant not only a stench, but any excessive odor. The word “stench” comes from the name of the currant, which was once cut down for its excessive odor. A person doused with perfume emits a stench.
This is also aggression. Hidden aggression.
And you need to gently defend your right to breathe. And understand that inside such a person there is a lot of aggression, which he decided to express in this way. And force others to endure. Therefore, anger in response to a polite request will definitely appear. But you will not break the rules of ethics. They are violated by the one who deprives others of the right to breathe.
