In the Internet era, it would seem that arranging your personal life has become much easier. Make your own website, register on dating sites – and wait. But sometimes we leave information about ourselves on the Internet that scares off potential partners. What common mistakes do we make when “promoting” ourselves on the Internet?
Photos
We sometimes post our photos in a rather frivolous manner on social networks and dating sites. Of course, men do not leave our profile without attention. But do not forget that anyone can wander onto our page for a chat, including your girlfriend or boss. As a result, they can form a very unflattering opinion of you. In addition, a man aiming for a serious relationship is unlikely to be interested in a topless beauty.
Unconventional interests
Let's say you like group sex and decided to find partners online. Of course, you're unlikely to mention your last name, but you can leave your photo or some contact information on the appropriate site, and the rest is a matter of technique. Remember that the world is small, and there's always a chance that someone you know will stumble upon your profile.
Description of cherished desires
“I dream of a passionate lover!”, “I dream of meeting a prince who will take me to the Canary Islands!”, “I dream of a luxury car!” In such a case, a decent man might think that you are an accessible girl, or are looking for a rich Pinocchio to trick him out of money. We forgive ourselves a lot, including immodest dreams. But will other people forgive us for them?
Negative feedback about your colleagues and employers
“My job is total crap, my boss is a smug turkey, the rest are idiots.” If you decide to express yourself this way on one of your online pages, don't expect that none of your co-workers will read it.
If you announce that you are looking for a new job before you have left your old one, this may cause a negative attitude from your current colleagues or management, and may even lead to immediate dismissal.
Negative characteristics of your personality
“I’m lazy, disorganized, unorganized, always late everywhere, I love idleness more than anything in the world, I adore fast food.”
Your friends may be happy with you the way you are – let's say they've long since gotten used to your cute quirks – but young men who are thinking about getting to know you may be put off by this – after all, they won't get a normal dinner or washed shirts with a lazy woman who loves fast food.
And if your potential employer or business partner reads this, he will think ten times whether it is worth getting involved with a person who is “unorganized” and “always late.”
Nowadays, many people specifically search the Internet for information about a person with whom they are going to enter into some kind of relationship. It is not that difficult to put together a “dossier”, you just need to enter a request with a first and last name in a search engine. And sometimes it is enough to know only an email address or phone number to find out the first and last name.
Danger also lurks for those who lead a “parallel” life. If you, being married, have created a profile on a dating site, or work part-time at a company that competes with yours, then it's a piece of cake to figure you out.
How can you avoid getting caught?
Limit the information you leave about yourself online. It is best if it is as neutral as possible. Avoid posting photos that show you are too relaxed. Avoid “extreme” characteristics, both yours and those around you, write carefully about your dreams and desires. Do not share too much personal information with site visitors. Your name, date of birth, profession, place of work, marital status, hobbies – this is the necessary minimum, mentioning which will not harm you.
Try not to leave your contact information – email, mobile number, ICQ – in the public domain. It's easy to track you down using them.
If you are looking for sexual adventures, do not use your real name, take a nickname. And do not provide your permanent contact information.
It is advisable not to include your last name in your resume about job search, and create a special mailbox for responses from employers. Elena Modenova
