‘My mother was being too pushy so I told her she has zero rights to name our baby’

The user explained on Reddit that his parent was “being the mother-in-law from hell” to his wife.

A father-to-be has shared his frustration with the online community about his mother who he said is being “too pushy” in naming her grandson. The user explained on Reddit that his mother is “being the mother-in-law (MIL) from hell” to his wife.

Upset with the recent events, he said that he recently snapped over his mother and laid down some boundaries. However, he has now reached out on social media to know if his reaction was “rude”.

The 25-year-old male explained that he has been married for just over a year and will be expecting his first child with his wife, Kenzie (25) this year. He claimed that since the baby is going to be the first grandchild, his mother has caused some “craziness”.

He wrote: “She has aimed most of this at Kenzie but I did step in when I learned how pushy my mom became. This started right after our pregnancy announcement. My mom went to Kenzie and told her we should name our child Rodger if we had a boy and Elizabeth if we have a girl.

“Rodger was my mom’s grandfather and she wanted to name me or one of my brothers Rodger but dad vetoed the name every time. Elizabeth is her favorite girl name and my dad vetoed that for my sister’s too. Kenzie told her we weren’t really looking for name suggestions and we had discussed a few already. My mom told her the names were important and should be used.”

However, things started to turn ugly when his mother began addressing their child as “Rodger” after the couple found out they are going to have a baby boy.

He added: “A couple of weeks after the first incident my mom asked Kenzie if she knew whether baby Rodger or baby Elizabeth was joining the family. Kenzie told her neither of those names were in the running and we didn’t know yet. Kenzie mentioned mom bringing up the names to me then but downplayed how pushy she was being so I said nothing at that point.

“We learned we were having a boy and my mom became so pushy that she ordered blankets and clothes with the name Rodger embroidered on them. The first we knew of this is when she gave us a little door decoration with the name Rodger on it. I told my mom then that we hadn’t finalized a name yet and wouldn’t be announcing it until after he’s here anyway.

“She went to Kenzie yet again and told her she was pissing her off by refusing to comply. They argued about it and Kenzie told me about it afterward. I went to talk to my mom and make some things clear and she asked why nobody in this family wanted to use the names she loved. I told her that was something she should work through herself because we are not obligated to use them for her.”

His mother did not stop there, he added. He claimed that she gifted some clothes and blanket to the couple engraved with the name “Rodger” and posted them on social media.

He claimed: “This made people assume we had chosen the name Rodger. This is when I lost it and went over to confront her about the pushiness. She told me it was important to take her opinion on board as my mom and our son’s grandma. And that’s when I told her she had zero rights to name our baby and her opinion wasn’t wanted or important here. My mom told me it was rude to dismiss her opinion and her feelings as unimportant and I should have more respect for her. It made me realize we need space from her right now but also I do wonder if I went too far.”

The post has over 2,000 comments with people offering support to the social media users. One user said: “Yes, absolutely shut this down firmly. Refusing to comply? Much the same as your dad did when he declined Rodger and Elizabeth for you and your sister? Maybe he can talk some sense into your mom.”

A second user said: “Yes, exactly. She doesn’t get a veto in this case, because she’s not one of the parents, and she should know better than most how it feels.”

A third user said: “Agree! OP needs to be firm like his father and veto these demands. OP’s wife does not deserve to be harassed and browbeaten by his mother to comply with these kind of unreasonable demands. The grandmother needs to be dealt with a form hand. Subtle language ain’t going to cut it.”

A fourth user added: “ANY information about your pregnancy/announcement of the birth/baby photo etc will come from you, not her. Particularly on social media. I’d be tempted to inform her last about everything; she clearly wants to take ownership of it all and be the one to inform the world.”

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